I got off the phone with a friend the other day and thought, "I talk too much." I even interrupted my friend a time or two. I wish I could redo the conversation and talk less and listen more. Like most people, it's easier for me to talk than to listen.
As parents, how often does our child do something wrong and then we preach to them a thirty-minute sermon? We go through the ritual of a complete church service other than taking up an offering and singing, "Take the name of Jesus with you." We leave the conversation satisfied because we got it out of our system. Did it help? Maybe it helped us as a parent, but not the child. They probably tuned us out after the first minute.
A few reasons why we talk more than we listen:
– We want to validate ourselves or opinions.
– It makes us feel important.
– It is naturally easier to talk than to listen.
– We are uncomfortable with silence.
Listening is becoming a lost art. To slow down and soak in what a person is not only saying verbally but what they are saying with their heart is hard to do. You will not find many people that possess this skill. It takes being intentional and the ability to lay aside your desire to sound important and give the other person the opportunity to talk.
It is said that a great man makes you feel like you are great. How do they accomplish that? By taking a genuine interest in what you have to say. They listen.
Next time, you are in a conversation, slow down. Do not meditate on how you are going to respond. Genuinely listen to the person you are talking to, and you might be surprised by what they are actually saying.
…he that refraineth his lips [is] wise. Proverbs 10:19
The heart of the righteous studieth to answer… Proverbs 15:28
He that hath knowledge spareth his words... Proverbs 17:27
Michael and his wife Crista, are blessed to have three children (Noah, Gracie, Luke). They live in the middle TN area and attend Eagle Christian church. He counts it an honor to be involved with Eagle’s View, BYC and serving as an evangelist. They enjoy being outdoors, traveling and above all serving the Lord.